Dear Jim-Jamie:
Core Beliefs… how to change core beliefs, how to change one core belief… How to believe it is okay to feel what you feel (since you were five), how to believe it is okay to act (for as long as it is not abusive to yourself or to another)?

In my experience awareness of ongoing thoughts and feelings, mindfulness is a necessary tool. Cognitive thearpy- excellent- correcting distorted thinking with accurate thinking. Practice. Patience. A process. No easy fix.

Wish you well. I hope you do change this harmful core belief, one that caused you so much distress your whole life- I wish it wasn’t so and hope you find relief and a growing sense of well being, peace of mind.

anita