Inky,

It’s crazy because sometimes I feel like she gets me SO well. And last night’s session was totally unfulfilling. When I’m in my darkest moments or when I resort to self blame she reminds me that I was a victim of an abusive man and an abusive relationship and that I was brainwashed. But other than that, she tries to make the situation out to be that this guy is simply just a jerk and yes he said and did bad things but I need to stop caring about his opinions and forget about him and not talk about it with anybody because it doesn’t help.

And you’re so right! I mean, I just really want to be heard, understood, and feel validated. I want people on MY side. I truly 100% believe that somebody who is honestly really happy (or rather, “happier than ever”) with their “new person” doesn’t behave like he does. It’s just common sense. It’s like bragging – the people who brag usually have the least and are the ones with the most insecurities. I want somebody to be like “Yes, Nicole, I TRULY believe that too, and you’re right!”

I know that I was the one who read that stuff he wrote online and it doesn’t help me one bit, but I did it and now I can’t forget it. And it’s not much consolation, but people who refer to their very serious past relationship as “that last chick I dated” and then tear them down – NOT for their personality – but for something as petty as their FACE – their LOOKS… I mean, that’s not normal behavior for a man in his late 20’s – or even any person, regardless of their age. I would assume that if she was so wonderful and if he was so happy, I wouldn’t even be a thought on his mind. And on top of that, if she was so wonderful and if he was so happy, he wouldn’t be online in some random forum constantly talking about her, complaining about the shit she does, and asking the other guys if he should see girls behind her back.