Hi Nicole,

We often seek to feel “good” in relationships, because we are unable to help our mind feel safe. You are seeking something that this relationship provided for you. Don’t judge your mind for yearning for it–you know to stay away, that isn’t the issue. But be curious. What was this relationship doing for you?

A lot of times we have a lot of misunderstandings about ourselves, so that we are not able to feel safe and at peace. Self-attack and limiting beliefs about ourselves can lead us to seek peace through external sources. But even in a good relationship, the “good” feeling is no substitute for truly being at peace with ourselves. When we are comfortable in our own skin, we don’t become so addicted to unhealthy relationships.

Hang in there!

Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org