I am trying to see–I know I need to return to a place of self love, Anita. Thank you for showing me a new view–that I am fortunate to be rid of someone who does not see my worth, or his own most likely, and whose true colors turned out to be these.

The struggle is that I am beating myself up for not seeing this as a gift, instead I am blaming myself and only affirming my wrong belief that no one will ever love me enough. I realize I need to love me enough. But each day I wake up not having hope or happiness, I am working hard to find it, but it feels lost to me. I know it is normal to feel sad and bad after a loss, but I want to see clearly.

Thank you for this new perspective. There are so many things he did wrong–and so did I–through our relationship. And normally, we would set them right. I often try to see my flaws and communicate them, and adjust my behavior. Maybe my reason for not trusting or believing in this man had nothing to do with my flaws at all, maybe this time, my instinct was right all along!