Dear Nicole:
i made a mistake with the pronoun, writing “use your thinking about you to help…” instead of ‘use your thinking about him to help…” What I meant is that if she is trying to have you stop overthinking him before she focuses on your childhood/ core issues than I think it may be impossible. I meant she can use your overthinking of him as a source of information about how you are thinking about you based on your childhood experience.

As you can probably read I did not mean that you are not capable of healing. I was doubting her method. I am quite suspicious of psychotherepists- many are not good at what they do. I finally had a good one and he was not perfect but good enough.

Regarding the question at the end of your last post, without remembering right now (or re-reading) the details of your posts to remind myself- I will say TRANSFERENCE is one issue- the seeing your rejecting parent in a romantic partner and re-playing the same dynamics. So as you talk or examine the dynamics with a guy, you repeat same dynamics as took place when you were a child. I hope this answers your last question, and I am humble about my input and answers. Everything has to go through your brain for accepting or rejecting or … examining further.

Take care, I will be at the computer tomorrow morning.
anita