Dear lavender,
I think I agree with what anita has written. I did not mean to suggest you are self centered.I would like to apologize for my poor choice of words. You are hurting and I wasn’t trying to minimize your feelings in any way.
What I was trying to say is, that you must not continue feeding the sad thoughts. Don’t allow yourself to get sucked in to a pessimistic frame of mind. Instead take all that energy and direct it towards making a stronger YOU. People who do not value you or hurt you should not get one bit of your mind space.
Although there is a lot of family and friends drama in my life but, I must admit that personally I have no experience with the kind of abuse that you seem to have undergone. But reading your words makes me sad and I want to help you feel better. I am sorry for not expressing myself more clearly.
I hope you can find peace and happiness.
love,
free soul