Dear confused-gal-78:
I think you have it right when you state: “(My feelings) based on 2 years ago and not now.” and: “I’ve definitely changed in the last 2 years…” This is realistic thinking- hat off to you. On the other hand you state that you “expect he has (changed) as well” and that he too is “not the same people (he was) before.” How do you know that? Just because you changed does not mean he has as well. The circumstances of his life may have changed but it doesn’t mean he has grown or matured like I hope is what you meant about you changing in the last two years.

You shared that he told you that you are the one, and that is after two months of a relationship two years ago… How do you take that? What does it mean or could it mean, you being “The One”? It sounds good, THE ONE. What does it mean? If I was you i would ask myself what it means to me… and I would ask him what it means to him. Was his wife The One when he married her? When he stopped seeing you two years ago- was she The One then, again? And if you are The One now, and you disagree or doubt it, whatever it means, are you still The One? Is it written in the stars (meant to be forever together- is that what it means?) Is it a destiny thing? I can go on and on.

You write that you are confused, that is unable to think clearly? Well, ask him and listen to him. Listen to him talk. There is no destiny that you are supposed to spot and fulfill. There are people many who stumble in the dark, trying to hold on to this or that (often enought to one The One or another), and as you meet these people, look and SEE, be willing to see what they are after, where they are in their thinking- look and listen.
anita