Dear lotuslotus:
I read about this phenomenon a lot: finally achieving the objective, the goal after lots of work and time, maybe feeling ecstasy, short lived, and then crashing, feeling disappointed, unfulfilled. And this phenomenon happen repeatedly to people who achieved goals that others go WOW. I mean, how often has it happened that people who achieved international fame, lots of money, and still they are depressed and you do hear of those who commit suicide.

What is the reason for a highly successful person in terms of the world (social conditioning: money, prestige) to become depressed and disillusioned? I think it is called by some the Carrot Effect- you chase the carrot and believe you will live happily ever after when you get the carrot in your mouth.

You achieved your goal- and you feel down and say: what went wrong? Of course you will find what is wrong- disatisfactions at work, older workers who don’t respond well enough to your efforts to connect, significant other elsewhere- there are plenty of reasons to be unsatisfied once you look for them.

But the origin of the disatisfaction is having your goal out there in the future and once the future is present it did not deliver the happily-ever-after experience, the joy, the bliss. It cannot. The answer is having your goal Here and Now. Not There and only Then.

What does the latter mean, having your goal here and now? I ask you and anyone who is reading this. I am figuring this out myself.
anita