Dear Sann:
I too was diagnosed with BPD. After years of effective therapy and healing, I no longer fit the diagnosis criteria. I found out that I dont HAVE BPD. There is no virus or bacterium called BPD. It is nothing but a combination of symptoms, a combination decided upon by psychiatrists for the purpose of inclusion in a book, the DSM, a book continuouy growing in width. The disorders are artificial combinations of symptoms, each with a name. Then people, I was one, OWN one or more… an idedentity and then go to a doctor for it.

I found out that in the core I was and am a hurt, scared little child. I learned what happened to me when I was a young child, dependent, vulnerable, how I was hurt, how I was scared and not attended to, not helped. And I learned what happened, like a snowball that started with that original fear and hurt, it, the snowball grew and grew- through years of not healing and the resulting unskilled living, amassing more and more negative experiences- that snowball of hurt and fear grew to a variety of more problem, complications, more and more DSM diagnoses.

I don’t own those diagnoses. I only own that hurt and fear that started the ball rolling.

If you would like more of my input, please let me know. I will answer and respond to anything else you would like me to.
anita