Dear Cecia:
From your writing it reads like your father is reasonable, scientific in his thinking, in his decision not to have surgery until he knows exactly what is going to be done and seeking a second opinion. Reads like he is good at taking care of himself, viewing the situation, taking the best course of action in what is possible and available. Maybe that is one reason why you feel better? I don’t know. Good to read you are feeling better. Maybe you got used to the situation, got a bigger perspective and therefore seeing it as less threatening.

Take care and best wishes to you and your dad:
anita