Dear Crazz:
Thank you for sharing more. You asked why you feel responsible for him. It seems to me that in those eight years if not before as well he was “the child” in your marriage and you were “the mother.” He played games and you went to work and brought in the money. You associated I assume with co-workers in the adult world and he associated with Xbox buddies. I am guessing that you feel responsible for his as a mother does for her minor son.

It I may, I would like to congratulate you for leaving this relationship. I hope you will not have him back in your life no matter what he does. I suppose he wants his kid-in-the basement playing-games life back. However responsible you feel- in reality you are not. First he is not a child. Second he is not your son. Third by marrying him the deal was not that he will regress to child status and you become his mother- that was not in the vows. So in any and every angle that I see- you did the right thing.

You wrote you feel nothing for him but responsibility. Do you think you can endure that false sense of responsibility while you continue to do what is right for you?
anita