A note to lizadeeza: you are saying then that currently you are having three long term relationships, all of which were sexual and neither one has been sexual for years. You are saying that you love each one of the three but are not possessive of either. I understand then that you do not wish to change either from the way it is but are open to changes.

Do you have any negative feeling/s at all when one of them is involved with another woman? Any whatsoever? Can you share more about how you achieved that DISTANCE from them as what they meant to you then and how you achieved CLOSENESS to them as what they mean to you now? And more, if you will, on the nature of past closeness and nature of current closeness???

Curious: anita