Hi Toshi,

Failure in relationships is not necessarily a reflection of you, rather it is two things – 1) the chance for you to grow 2) getting closer to finding what is really meant for you. It is okay to be kinda nervous, on the edge with someone we like. It happens to all of us. That is because we feel more conscious of ourselves in front of them and want them to reciprocate or atleast approve of us. Confidence is not some “stick-it” project that can be fixed in one go. This is life. We all go through the ups and downs until we get better at tackling ourselves. Consider this phase as just something that will pass. You arent doomed in any way. Are you really the same person you were 3 years ago? Will you necessarily be the same? When this feeling of low, nervousness overpowers you when you are in front of this person, ask yourself this “Do they really know all of me anyway? and secondly, what does it matter what they think? Life goes on”. Instead of ruminating too much on how bad this, how bad you are in this situation, sometimes we need to let it go and allow ourselves to expand. You are not broken though. Just going through the waves of life and it is okay to like someone, be scared of what they might think of you but dont let it stop you from seeking your happiness, finding love when possible. Instead of failures, look at these experiences as what they are – “experiences”. Believe me, when the time is right, things work out in a funny way in ways we never envisaged in the first place.

Stay hopeful about yourself.

Regards,
Moon