Anita,

From your questions I get the feeling that you are some one that works in the field. I hope that these questions are not part of research or for an article or paper. With that said, I will answer your questions on a level I am comfortable with engaging someone I don’t know.

I am a man. My mothers abuse of me was sexual, physical, emotional and physiological. I happened from age 5-15. The physical part of the sexual abuse and the physical abuse only lasted about 2 years. The emotional and physiological part of sexual abuse lasted until I was 15.

My mother passed away over 20 years ago and I still have weekly contact with my father.

I did end contact with my mother at times. First due to her drinking as I was in recovery and then as I began working on the abuse. I did not end contact with my father though there were times when it became infrequent. Working on the issues I had him that stemmed from the abuse and neglect were harder to wrap my brain around but easier to work through.

I am mostly in a maintenance stage. Sometimes low self-esteem or emotional eating rear there ugly heads. But I catch them pretty quickly and have the tools to deal with them.