Dear Karen:

You made the wrong for you choice to move into your bf’s parents’ basement. The choice made some intellectual sense, save money to buy a house, but it did not make good sense in that you don’t really want to buy a house and you need your privacy.

You are suffering the consequences of making a bad-for-you choice. You compromised yourself way too much for your own good, in your living situation, at work and in your interactions with your parents.

Extricate yourself, your self interest, your well being from the different messes, one mess at a time, one step at a time. I would start with moving out. Change only that thing: move out, live on your own or with your boyfriend. I would not change your job at the moment. Just the living situation. And then, take it from there.

anita