Hi Rkallas,

I understand how crappy you are feeling at the moment and regardless of what anyone tells you no doubt you’re still thinking: “but I can’t give up on her”, and for all of the need to give her space, you are perfectly entitled and justified in believing that you can not give up her.

My advice would be to be honest.

Firstly you need to explain exactly how you feel about her and for how long. You will also need to give an honest answer as to why you withheld your feelings for so long. If the thought of her being with someone else finally made you speak out, you need to openly tell her that; but reassure her that your feelings were there beforehand.

Importantly though after being honest, you can not force it. You must let it take its natural course and if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be. If nothing comes to fruition, then it simply means that waiting for so long to confess your feelings was a good thing – that something more perfect will come along in the future, an opportunity that would not have arisen if you had done things differently.