Dear shellybells:

Part of you knows reality and part of you does not reality and is holding on- desperately- to delusion. Your “rational mind” knows the truth, and you expressed it in your post. Your “emotional mind” does not want to cooperate with your rational mind and is holding on to a deluded version of reality. Your misery is fueled by this conflict.

To examine reality you need to examine what is fueling your distorted view of reality.

What is real? The man does not love you. What part of you believes: The man loves you. What is real: he disrespects you. What part of you believe: shellybells deserves disrespect so he is not doing anything wrong, i get what i have coming to me. Reality: you need to be loved. You can’t get it from him. He is a loving person. What part of you believe: shellybells can TURN this unavailable source of love to an available source of love, shellybells can tap a rock and get water out of it.

anita