One more thing, James, to heal from the traumatic relationship I had with my mother it took a healing relationship with my husband whom I met late in life, at the age of 49. It took him and the psychotherapist I saw a year later, at 50. It was a rough ride. Like I wrote above it was LOTS of work within therap, in between sessions, every day since, lots or reading, lots and lots and lots of writing, lots of practice of interpersonal and intrapersonal skills, lots of getting in touch with my body via lots of yoga, tai chi, other disciplines and exercise, all kind, every day.

By the way, I lived in NYC in 1985, 86. Church st, downtown. Loved Central Park.
anita