“you have flaws and as you become more accepting of others mistakes you will be more accepting of your own. For a normal non-narcissistic their self is the hardest person to love.”

Certainly agree with this. If I had a nickel for every time someone gave sage advice in an emotionally difficult situation yet was unable to take their own advice…This makes me think of the idea that doing nice things for people helps not only them but you. Sometimes I genuinely find this outpouring of wanting to do SOMEthing to help someone else or brighten their day. So it’s within me, this ability to care about others. Which I think, in turn, means I have the ability to love myself in the same way. It may just take practice. Lots of practice.