Hi L,

I completely agree with Anita. I have gone through a similar experience in the past where I struggled with being nice and doing whats best for me. I had texted the ex on his birthday and for me it just prolonged the healing process, because I realized there were some unresolved issues, which might be the case for you. I would focus on healing and focus on your own happiness and enjoying your own life as hard as it may seem, but your strong and can overcome the anxiety. Also, what helped me to heal whenever I was tempted to contact my ex, was to think if contacting him would add any value to my life or bring any sort of happiness and for me the answer was “no”. Another food for thought, why would you want to have all this anxiety and turmoil over someone in your life that broke your trust, and doesn’t respect you? It may sound selfish, but you need to take care of emotional well-being first, maintain your power and continue on the path of self love, so you can attract the right relationships in the future. 🙂

Hope this helps!

V