Hi Laure,

I’m sorry to hear the struggles you are having in this friendship. If I can offer you some help, here it is:

Connecting with another human being on any level can be difficult. This is because we all carry our own vulnerability, our own issues and our own experiences and stories. Each of us has different levels of relationship trauma from our families, past relationships and friendships. When we try to connect with others we come up against this, but its confusing when we can’t pinpoint exactly what we are battling against.

Good fertilizer for any relationship to develop is a healthy level of self-esteem, acceptance of our own feelings, the ability to empathize with others, the desire to respect your own boundaries and understand the boundaries of others, the desire and ability to communicate in a fashion that is free of blame and expresses how you feel in a non-confrontational way.

Try to take a look at each of these areas and see how you show up and what comes up for you. From there, you’ll be able to see if you’re able to make this relationship work or not right now.

Best of luck and much love!

Matt.
http://www.seedslifecoaching.com/