Dear Lucy:

Isn’t he the guy throwing the anger tantrums like a child, the guy I commented before on another of your threads? I am not sure. In any case, it is almost, and maybe, his way of screaming in a sense: PROVE to me that you love me! Trying to rattle you into further proving. If this is so, this is not a healing man but a man stuck in throwing anger tantrums. His breaking up with you, again, is probably not sincere. To do the right thing in any case, whether my guessing here is correct or not, is to have no contact with him. Do not fuel his tantrums, if those are tantrums, or otherwise teach him that he is taken seriously and his wishes are granted: relationship/ interactions are over as he expressed his wish for it to be over.

anita