Hi Lori,

You are right – that I need to accept what he has said. Somehow I really can’t get over the hurt and anger that has resulted from this relationship. There is almost this feeling of being abandoned although I know i’m an adult and I can’t be abandoned. It just upsets me knowing that someone knows that I am suffering and they just don’t care. Of course, not everyone cares about others. I don’t know about anything anymore. I am just struggling friend friendships and all of the people in my life. I am lonely and I have tons of friends. My happiness is short lived. I feel like I accept then I forget and I accept and forget, kind of like the title of this article.

Hi ahliyya,

Maybe because we were in a relationship before? Clearly things did not work well then, and I’m sure they wouldn’t have worked out long term. He resists intimacy, but there is nothing I can do about it. I still get sad thinking he will move on with someone else, maybe he has already moved on. I am still sad though, and hurt, and angry. You are right, I need to completely avoid seeing him and/or talking to him because it really makes me feel bad. I can not let go of my guilt that this was somehow my fault even though I know rationally that we were both responsible for the good and bad things that happened. I think part of this has to do with me putting him on a pedestal and thinking that I will never find someone as handsome as him.