Dear Libby:

There is something way, way more valuable for your 13 and 11 year old kids to have, more valuable by far for both than having a grandmother that will visit them often. That something that they need so much more is a healthy mother and father who are having a good loving marriage. This is so much more important for them. I have no doubt.

It is only that important for YOU to have the loving mother that you don’t and you suffer from it and pass on the suffering to your children in the form of your anxiety and sadness, ongoing frustrations with your mother.

I do so hope you cut ALL contact with your mother and continue the healing process that you started when you cut off contact with your brother, continue the healing by also cutting contact with your mother. For your kids’ sake. And for your own, same thing.

anita