Dear Laia:

Your partner is probably as distressed as you, so he did not explode “over nothing” like you wrote. So that is the key: you and your partner live under great stress, so instead of isolating from each other and turning against each other, be a good friend to each other. Unite, not divide. Go to him when you are both calm and talk to him, tell him how difficult the situation is for both of you and talk about how you two, as a team, as best friends, can make it better- nothing you two can do together is too small of a thing. Whatever you and he can do to help yourselves and your baby, is a plus, congratulate each other for any successful move, be it something with changing bed time, decreasing time spent with your parents, etc.

Small things, and then, later, work on bigger things.

anita