Dear bulletww:

You are afraid that the woman WILL hurt you but in actuality, in your brain where it all happens, it is the hurt that you already felt that got triggered a week ago, hurt by others before the woman. That hurt-memory triggered fear. So there is old hurt that you are pushing down (resisting) and fear of experiencing that hurt again.

What you resist (hurt, in your case), persists.

I think that what will help you now is to accept that hurt that got triggered a weak ago. It was dormant in some inactive neurological pathway and now the pathway is active, it got disturbed by your new experience with the woman.

It is not the hurt by the woman that you need to accept, because it didn’t happen yet. It is the hurt you already felt, someone who already hurt you.

Now that the hurt-memory was triggered, you can not un-trigger it. You have to … process it. So why don’t you write here or elsewhere, here is fine, about who hurt you and how that was. Maybe you can write a poem about it, a song, somehow get in touch with it, feel it. Yes, you have to feel it so to know you can survive it.

Once you feel the old hurt and survive feeling it, relieved, your fear of the woman hurting you will calm.

Waiting for your reply, if you reply.

anita