Dear Treen:

In your original post you wrote:” my ex husband and I have agreed our relationship is our personal business and we’ve consistently agreed not to discuss the reasons why of it with our family members.” In the last post you wrote: “We have discussed the divorce with her multiple times including what led to it.”

The two statements are inconsistent. Why is that, I wonder. In the first is a very strong statement, very clear, “our relationship is our personal business” – you didn’t write parts of our relationship is personal. I don’t understand.

But it is not my job to understand. In the last post you sound like a very reasonable person and your daughter, a materialistic superficial person. This is possible of course.

But I am still caught in the first contradiction. I mean, it doesn’t sit well with me. Maybe you are very inexact in your communication with her… contradicting yourself? I don’t know.

I don’t think I am helpful to you. I wish I was. I can’t get over the contradiction.
anita