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Dear Gabrielle:
So he has known for five months and you share a house, living in the same house. Then there are three options:
1) You ask/ed his forgiveness as an ex girlfriend and current roommate, for the purpose of living as roommates in peace.
2) You ask/ed his forgiveness with the hope of a romantic, intimate relationship.
3) You ask/ed his forgiveness as an ex girlfriend and soon to be ex roommate.
I suppose asking his forgiveness as an ex girlfriend will fit the contexts of these three options. And it is probably a good idea, if it is still your interest to be his girlfriend, to give HIM the above three options, for now (time limit to be determined now or later by you). He had no power when you cheated on him and probably that powerlessness is hurting him. Give him now the power to decide one of the three. All up to him. No pressure. You throw the ball to his court and wait, very patiently, for his move.
This way there is nothing at all for you to do. No more pressure on you. It is all about what he chooses to do. I think that will be the wise way to go about it.
anita