Hi Anita,
I will never and have made it very clear to him I will no longer endure the pain of his lash outs from him or form any other.
He has admitted to me he has blamed me and admitted to me that it isn’t me, it is him and he needs to deal with his issues as he wants to take responsibility for his life and fix himself and stop this treatment once and for all, and needs help and the tools to stop it, to control his anger and communicate in a positive way rather than how he has been as it is not right.
Patternings can be broken as they have to be recognise and broken down to be fixed as I am a product of breaking my patterns that I have been taught in my childhood.
If you can’t see your patterning how do you fix them and this is the first time he has acknowledge he needs and wants help to make right what he has broke.
I haven’t promised him it is fixable as I said we both need time to heal individually and to grow stronger independantly and then see if we still want and if this marriage can be mended and go from there.
So only time will tell