Dear Erica:

If I may say so with such conviction as this: there is no such thing as a “perfect person.” It may be a figure of speech and you didn’t mean it literally… then I should ask you, what you mean by a “perfect person”?

I just replied to another post about the mutual mess that is a good relationship, sharing your imperfection (mess, referred to in that post) with him as he shares his, honestly, responsibly and comfort and help each other…

Your last thread was about a guy who I got the sense was manipulating you to stay with him out of guilt. After only two months you considered not leaving him because you didn’t want to hurt him. He told you how broken he was… after only two months. Any brokeness he was experiencing was not a result of his relationship with you, I have no doubt. In that short relationship, he shared with you his imperfection, his brokeness, only he did it dishonestly, manipulatively. He could have told you about how he feels, what really broke him long before he met you. Share with you as you shared with him and as a team help each other.

If you get into a relationship with an honest man who will responsibly share with you his feelings, taking responsibility for those, not giving you the responsibility and job to fix, then that relationship will give you the energy and hope and life that you need, and that will be a different state of mind than being worn out. I hope you will soon enough partner with such a man and that the two of you will engage in such a relationship.

Post anytime.

anita