Dear Susan:

He was consistent in assuring you he loved you but there were times of almost break ups, where he did tell you that he was feeling suffocated by your ongoing accusations. And at times he was distant. Yet the relationship survived and he repeatedly told you he loved you. He helped you, with his assertions of love, to reach the finish line, the one right before entering marriage, his hand reached out to you as you arrived, and then he took his hand away and walked away. Right there at the finish line.

I am trying to guess as to possible whys, an intellectual exercise on my part. Was he motivated to fix you and then tired and came to his senses, figuring he failed and you will continue to be suspicious of him… not paying attention until the two of you reached the finish line? Or is he invested in the role, first of the Good Son, to his parents when he was a child, maybe still, always reaching out to them and continued that role with you…?

I can only guess. Is there a use in doing that? Are you still trying to understand? You have more information, pieces of a puzzle. There might be some use in it and we can examine possibilities further if you’d like, so take it from here.

Should you move on? Or hold on to hope with him?

Question: the money it cost to arrive at the finish line, the money it cost to prepare for a wedding, who paid that? Are there financial business yet to be resolved? There might be a clue there. Waiting for your reply.

anita