Dear Shelly:

Two children, and the youngest is 4 only. I got to say: good job on his part. Like I wrote, it is his responsibility as a father to have a home that welcomes his children. He sure didn’t make good choices with the mothers of his children… too bad.

There is no reason for you to put yourself in a situation where YOU suffer as well. Seems to me like the break up is a win-win situation. I sure hope you choose a man with no children or at least, no minor children. To simplify, way-simplify my point: I do not like cake with raisins in it. To eat a slice, I have to pick the raisins out. It is time consuming and leaves a mess on the plate. It makes way more sense not to get cake with raisins in it then it is to pick them out after getting the slice… and it make no sense to get on a cake-with-raisins diet either.

Some difficulties we have, we work on healing, but no reason to make our lives more difficult than has to be.

Post anytime. I very much appreciate our communication and commonality so far!

anita