Dear Nelly:

I feel sad reading your latest posts. Just before I read: “do I owe you any more explanations?” I thought to myself to write to you: You do Not owe me any explanations. And then you wrote it yourself. Indeed you do not owe me any explanations. You owe me nothing at all.

And before I read your latest posts, I thought to myself: I think Nelly is real, honest and she really believes people will help her … just because she needs help.

Let me explain, think as I type this: you really think the world is fair or eventually will be fair, just. You suffered injustices which you detailed and you think that somehow, those injustices will be corrected. You think that because you were a good person, gave to charity, that someone will help you when you need help. And you think strangers will do it, give you money simply because you need it.

I am the only one replying to you. I think lots of people, once they “sniff” a request for money, move on. Because there are so many requests out there: people are bombarded every day with requests for money: at home by mail, phone, computer (internet), TV… on the freeway entrances by people holding signs, on the entrances to supermarkets… everywhere one turns. Try to understand this:

As you feel your real need for money and ask for it, you are asking for it from people bombarded every day by such requests, every day of their lives: many people working hard, paying taxes (that go to help others in need, much wasted), may people who in addition to paying taxes and paying their bills, multiple bills, also donate to church and charities…people can not help everyone, it is impossible. And the constant pressure to GIVE GIVE GIVE really is ABUSIVE to us folks.

We have problems too, challenges too, we do not deserve to be bombarded day and night, everywhere by people telling us: GIVE US, GIVE US, GIVE US. It makes many of us uncomfortable at the least and PERSECUTED, really, chased like animals by the ongoing, none stop requests for money.

You do not owe me explanations and i do not owe you explanations either. You explained to me anyway and I reciprocated with explaining to you how things look from my end.

Life is not fair and not just, Nelly. I only hope you don’t cross the line from being honest, as you appear to be now, to the world of dishonesty, following the particular logic: if I can’t get help by being honest, then I have no choice but be dishonest. Many people do.

My best wishes to you.
anita