Dear Jenny:

I am assuming you learned long ago that your problems make others uncomfortable, burden others and by others, I am guessing, a parent or parents, the first people you reached out to for help in your life. You learned to not reach out for help and only to help. Problem is you need help, like anyone else. It feels uncomfortable, but if you try it, just a little, here and there, following the discomfort, if you endure the discomfort, you will find it is very helpful to you.

Without reaching out and sharing your problems, like you wrote, it becomes overwhelming. We need other people, it is not an option but a necessity. If you don’t do it, you will get overwhelmed again and again, in a relationship, and the relationship will not be able to survive.

You try to help others because you believe others need help with their problem. You don’t think that you are an exception, do you? You too need to tell others your problems.

Please do consider this….
anita