Dear H1978:

I think that your emotional attachment to him was the reason why you didn’t leave him three years ago and it is the same emotional attachment to him that is going to be in your way in leaving him now.

This emotional attachment to him is very powerful… do not underestimate it. It is what makes things “easier said then done.”

Your logic is good but the attachment makes it hard. It will not go away easily, even now. You will have to endure it, to expect it. Sometimes, I think, you will feel confident about doing the right thing, separating. And at other times, you will probably want to be with him again, want it to work out yet again. It is the nature of attachment.

anita