Dear Emile:

You asked in your original post and it is the title of your thread: “Ladies, how does she feel?” Of course just because I am a woman does not mean I know how any other woman or person feels. No way for me to tell or for anyone to tell. This is why I wondered if she did not share with you how she felt.

If you want to know how she feels, best you ask her.

She told you then in the last three months of the year after that she was HURT. And then she told you that she forgave you, that means she was angry at you before and when she forgave you, at least at the moment she did, it means she was no longer angry at you. So we have two feelings so far: HURT, ANGER. Then CALM (following forgiveness). At one point, you wrote that she had trust issues with you, that means she was SUSPICIOUS of you, feeling you can hurt her, being CAUTIOUS about not being hurt by you. If the issues were too big for her to get over, it means she was OVERWHELMED, DISTRESSED.

Why was she in ongoing communication with you for a whole year after the breakup? This is an interesting question. Although I cannot read her mind, one could come up with guesses, or possibilities. If you come up with five, I will come up with the next five (as an exercise). Of course, you could ask her this question yourself.

When she said: “We blame others for breaking our hearts when we know that the other person is not good for us…but we still indulge in them” it may be that she was saying that you are blaming her for breaking your heart but you are dishonest because truth, she is claiming, you thought that she was not good enough for you and you indulged in her, that is took advantage of her, used her.

Does it make sense to you?
anita

anita