Thanks…just seems like a lot of this is put on me. I feel like I am the one trying to figure this out and he is just focused on our connection and doesn’t want to accept that I have other feelings and needs separate from him.

Had a big fight and he got really sad after I mentioned about me feeling wanting to do separate things from him or how he makes me mad and I feel like driving away. It isn’t meant to be mean but it is how I feel. I understand that our marriage requires time for each other but it feels like an over emphasis on it, especially when we aren’t getting along. I feel then it is time for us to take some space apart to gather our thoughts and work through our frustration. He thinks we should be cheery and affectionate a lot and I don’t think it’s necessary, I know we both have different needs and degrees of affectionate.

I feel at a loss, he doesn’t seem open to hanging out on our own unless we are happy and cheery, he gets sad if I suggest it. He says we need to be good together first before we can do things separately, I feel that is backwards. I don’t know, I feel crazy and maybe I am just closing up because he seems too needy. Well I think I am going to try things differently but I feel so much more aware of the deeper problem than he is willing to admit.