Dear Alicia1211:

I understand, of course you want the man you love, the father of your child to be, to be there for you, for the two of you to help each other. Of course you do, this is as understandable as can be.

Yet, as a mother to be, you owe it to your child to make a CALM home for him or her, however it is going to be, with or without the father. Somehow, you have to find a way to make yourself calm. You have the most important job in the world in front of you, being a mother. A vulnerable, innocent child will be looking up to you for his or her well being.

This does not mean you have to be super strong- that is not possible… for you to be perfect. Only strong enough, good enough to be a mother.

Whatever you do, keep this in mind. Please post here anytime with updates regarding your relationship with your boyfriend/ friend… friends first. Tell him, as your friend, how scared you are but don’t blame him for being scared. You are as responsible as he is for being pregnant, never blame him for it. This way, you can become the good friends you need to be.. and from there, hopefully, there will be more.

anita