* I want to add to my input above that I understand your sensitivity about honesty in a relationship and I very much care for honesty in a relationship and in every interaction I have, including in here, right now. I wouldn’t accept dishonesty as an imperfection that I should live with. On the other hand, perfect honesty is impossible as perfect anything is impossible to execute. If I was you I would loosen a bit my definition of honesty in the relationship with your boyfriend, discuss and come to an agreement about what honesty means. There is no way either one of you can be honest all the time, perfectly because often we don’t know what is going on ourselves, we need time to understand… so you too cannot be perfectly honest all the time about all things. Discuss, define and come up with a definition that is doable and that works for both of you.

anita