Dear Adam:

Yes, your last post does clear it up for me. This is what it clears up for me:

I am so sorry, Adam, but it seems to me like your girlfriend is trying to hurt you repeatedly. You told her you are hurt and she kept doing that. She is the one telling you the things that hurt you, knowing they hurt you because you told her. Does she have no choice in telling you? It is not like a hiccup that she cannot control. If it was a hiccup, I would say, there is something to work on, but when she chooses to hurt you… how do you get your mind around that?

Fact is she is trying to hurt you. Most people who are trying and proceed to be successful in their efforts to hurt others (as your girlfriend is) are doing so because they were hurt earlier in life and they are … passing on the hurt. This is the long tradition of abuse, perpetuating abuse.

If you agree with what seems obvious to me, what are you going to do about it?

anita