Dear Carly:

I understand your loss and heartbreak. Mostly you are hurting over what could have been, what was and what could be again, if only… if only he didn’t start drinking. His drinking is in between the good that was and the good that could be in the future.

His drinking is not your responsibility and it is not in your power to stop. No matter what you do, there is nothing you can do to stop it. It is not in your power. It, his drinking, is too powerful an issue for you to tackle.

Your job, that, I hope is in your power to tackle, to handle, to progress in… not his drinking.

I am glad he had the sense to break up with you because it is for your own good. He did the right thing. Wish him well, send him your good thoughts, this is all you can do. And post again, express here your heartbreak, your despair, your desperation as you focus your energy left in you on the things you can control, the things you can affect.

anita