Dear Elle:

I read your latest post and then re-read your original post. This is what I see may have been happening, and is happening, let me know if I am on the right track, and if there is any truth to how I see it:

He became intense with you, too close for comfort, meaning, you got scared so you pushed him away. First you pushed him away emotionally, you withdrew, you stopped feeling love for him. Then you broke up with him. Because you were afraid. You felt relief for a long time because, now safe (not in a relationship with him), you were no longer afraid.

Then he became seriously-enough involved with another girl. At this point, you were safe because he moved on, he made the move away from you so you no longer had to keep pushing him away so to protect yourself.

You stopped pushing him away in your own heart and mind because he was safely in a distance, with the other girl. Now that you are safe, you feel the love again.

People say, fear and love cannot co exist. When we are afraid of someone (from being so close to him), we can’t have loving feelings at the same time.

What do you think?

anita