Dear Carlos:

From your update of your last get together there is no indication whatsoever of a change on his part. His talk about alcohol is the same as it was before. There is nothing new. There is no indication of him facing his problem drinking (problem because at the least, it caused the breakup). For example, you wrote: “he would completely leave ‘the thing that bothers me so much’ behind”- he didn’t even mention the word alcohol. Now that is avoidance, not facing a problem.

So if you date him again, it (his drinking and all the problems resulting from his drinking) will happen again, it is just a matter of time. If you want to prevent the coming heartache, you have only one way to do it: to not get together with him… unless you are interested and can handle an occasional, none bf-bf kind of interactions. From previous post here, I believe you are interested in a continuous, predictable, trustworthy kind of relationship…

anita