Dear Elle:

In your post above you wrote that you “have never seen (yourself) as someone who was afraid of the intensity of love” and then you wrote: “I should have talked to him… instead of running away in fear..” and again, at the end of your post: “”I’m the one that ended a perfectly healthy relationship out of fear.”

I would say: examine that fear, will you? We can communicate about it here together, if you’d like.

Still, in the post above you wrote: “it did freak me out that someone was willing to do anything for me…and willing to be so vulnerable around me.”

Do you remember yourself, as a child, being vulnerable, being totally vulnerable, loving your parent/s completely, totally… and what happened then and there to that love, that vulnerability in that relationship/s?

anita