May: I got this information from an advice article written by a man who is a dating coach. It personally helped me. I just want to share this perspective. I apologize if this advice article comes off a little straightforward. I believe you deserve a deeply fulfilling, happy, content relationship with someone though.

“One thing you can do is “do nothing.” By not taking the initiative – and not reminding him that you’re alive and waiting for him – you get to see whether he’s truly into you. A man who is into you calls, plans dates, keeps in touch in between, commits, and makes you feel valued as a girlfriend. A man who is not into you doesn’t do these things.

That brings me to my other philosophy, “men do what they want.” Your emotions can cloud your judgment. It’s almost as if what you WANT to be true is superseding what IS true. As a result, women stay in dead-end relationships with men who don’t call them, commit to them, or talk about a future with them.

So why wouldn’t a man call, commit, or talk about a future? Because he doesn’t want to.

Your next move is to tell him the truth: you’re looking for a boyfriend, not an occasional texting buddy, dinner companion, and sex partner. If he’s not gonna step it up, you’re gonna step out.”

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