Dear Kman:

I wouldn’t pretend she doesn’t exist or that nothing ever happened but very much take what happened in as a learning experience. It did happen… just don’t let …more of it happen to you.

I would keep no contact with her if I was you because I wouldn’t want more of the same. It is confusing to you, is it not, because you can’t understand how she can be nice and loving at one time and cold and abusive at another time? Is it that you think the two behavior don’t go together in one person?

But they do. As you get to know a person, notice: is he or she sometimes abusive? If so, keep them out of your life no matter how nice they are in between the instances of abuse. There should be no abuse.

As a child, when you have abusive parents, you have no choice, unfortunately. But as an adult, you have a choice.

No, I wouldn’t forget about her. I would remember and make sure I have no new to-be-gotten memories of her in the future!

Please do post again, anytime.

anita