Kate,

I’m sorry to hear this.

I’m not sure, honestly what to write, i feel that no matter what i write or question, it’s truly your husband who needs to answer and understand these. I could continue to generalize or assume, but that’s not right. I guess you are already racking your brain for answers, and i don’t want to make you scratch harder for the sake of my curiosity. PLease keep updating this post, whether to add your thoughts or ask more questions or advice, since it’s quite late here, maybe the other side of the world will arise to a new day soon and offer more useful advice. I truly hope that everything works out.

Sincerely,
Matty