Dear Nicole:

There are always pros and cons, if there weren’t pros or cons to any particular decision that needs to be made, then there it wouldn’t be a decision that needs to be made following the ten seconds it takes to make it.

This relationship you have is new and the man lives with his parents while going to school for a second degree. Those two things are rooting him where he is.

If Wyoming is something that is most likely (pros, cons weighted and statistical probability is that it is likely to be a good choice)- I would move to Wyoming, it being likely to be a good move for you and your children. After all, your children should always be your highest priority, so their well being and yours are most important.

I would move to Wyoming. And if it suits him to move to Wyoming sooner or later then that would be another decision to be made. He will then have his own pros and cons list and so will you.

And so, we move on making the best decisions we can make, knowing there is always a cost or a possible cost to a decision made (this is why it is difficult to make them)- and all we have to go by is logic and statistics: what is more likely to be a good choice? No guarantees, no way to predict the future either way and compare between a choice made and one that … wasn’t made.

Please do post again.

anita