Hi Anita,

I think you’re right. I shouldn’t have any new memories of her. I unfriended her today, and I felt really bad about it. I don’t know why, though. I’d look at her profile every once and a while. One time I look and she’s removed every picture of us, the next time I take a look she’s made our friendship (option to look at our posts throughout Facebook since we started) private. She removed a lot of my comments on her pictures from when the relationship began and I don’t know but at that point, I felt horrible. I just quickly went to her profile and unfriended her in the moment out of the emotions I was feeling. I didn’t think it through. I feel like that was my last connection with her, where I don’t actively need to talk to her to “be in her life.” I’m watching someone I love slowly remove every trace of me from her life and it seriously hurts.

I can’t understand it. How she could go from so loving to do everything she’s done. To be honest the only reason I’ve left her on my Facebook since we broke up two months ago is because I felt like we might be able to get in frequent contact again someday. I’ve had some days where I was ok and other times it was just like the first day we broke up. I get really sad thinking about how people who were so close end up being strangers. This my first time going through this so I’m sorry but thank you for helping me out.

I’ve also realised whenever the idea of relationships come up between me and my friends I start getting sick. I start feeling anxious, kind of scared, kind of nauseous. I’ve obviously not moved on yet. I understand that we broke up and that we are probably always going to be. But I still love her as much as I ever did. Do you need to kill that feeling before you’re ready to move on or can you even if you don’t?