Dear Andy:

She may be happy but the picture is no indication that she is happy. I had photos of myself when I looked so happy and yet I was so miserable. When a photo was taken of me, I looked into the camera and smiles on purpose, the biggest smile I could place on my face and I tried to make it look authentic. Some years ago I threw away all my photos because the showed me happy and I was not.

So photos are no indication that she is happy! We often show to the world what we want the world to see. Unless a photo is taken without the person knowing, you can’t trust a photo.

And if there was an invisible camera taking photos of her, you would see her sometimes miserable. Photos are such misrepresentation: not only a person looks happy when not so, but the photo stays on the screen or on paper or in our memory as this stationary thing, something permanent when in reality, the person is no longer that 2 dimensional permanent image.

You don’t know if she bounced back quickly or if she is falling right now. You can’t know.

Please do take care of yourself as you hide, make it a pleasant hiding today, nice music perhaps, a movie?

anita